I woke up today and I felt as though I haven’t slept all night. Even in my sleep I am thinking about all things wedding. Will the extensive guest list even fit at the venue, do we have to call all of them…are the grooms side writing no gifts – does that mean I need to write no gifts in my wedding card 😕 The wedding invitation card is not yet selected…its October today… what about my pending purchases – shoes, heavy suit sets etc…
I am up since 7 am but I am so exhausted. It feels as though I was planning war tactics in my head all night long. While on other days it is easier for me to write New Posts on different topics, today being the 1st is like a reality check. I cannot think of anything else.
There is exactly 2 months to go for the wedding !!! Yikkess !!!
There are so many unknown factors to the wedding as of today, that I feel I need to pick up one by one and clean up all the mess. So I am again off to Bhuleshwar today to do my shopping. This week has been the hottest in Mumbai, weather is like 37 degrees in peak hours, and even though I thought I should simply stay at home and not let my skin suffer anymore, I guess that is not possible…
Lets start with some good news. I really want to share this:
I finalized my photographer!
Just yesterday. All thanks to…wait wait…I will tell you. There is a story behind it. But its all done. What a relief ! My search started way back in June. Can you imagine. It really took that long. Me and the fiance from the past few days were debating between two agencies to hire. We finally decided on one, and I was calling the owner – but he simply wouldn’t answer my calls. I found it so strange…on the 3rd day, I wrote an email to him asking him what the issue was. He said his phones were stolen and that he was glad I reached out to him. But because of this delay, someone had already booked him on my wedding date !
At that moment, I can’t even begin to tell you what I felt. I thought God is purposely punishing me. But I had given myself an ultimatum to just close this…so I called the other agency, spoke to them and after some khich-khich, I have my photographer situation fixed. One major hurdle down.
I haven’t put in my booking amount yet…so give me this week, will share all the details about them soon 🙂 Don’t want it to get jinxed >_<
I am thinking of collecting all the Bridal Getting Ready Shots
You know its not just this, but hasn’t this happened to you, while looking through pictures of others weddings, there are certain shots that you absolutely love and plan to get clicked at your wedding as well. We are humans and not machines, which means we can’t remember it all after few days.
Now that I have fixed my photographer, I thought it will be easier for me, as well as for them if I have some ready shots to refer to. I realized this during my pre-wedding photoshoot as well as when my engagement pictures were being clicked. At that moment, the mind goes blank. You just do whatever comes to your head and regret it later to not have captured something different.
So what I have thought is, Pinterest is the best tool to use to pin all such ideas in one place. I have just started doing so, and if you see anything you like…do send me the pin on pinterest and I will make sure to include it in the board. This way we all can collectively have a fabulous go-to board with all the favorite shots in one place.
What do you think?
Went to pick my Wedding Lehenga
Still some alteration required….but I feel beautiful in it…touchwood. The lehenga is full flared, and the store people had not put the canvas appropriately for the stiffness. So even after having a gorgeous gher, the Lehenga did not fall well. Luckily they agreed to fix it within the next couple of days I should have it with me.
Seeing the lehenga all packed up, my mum tells the store people, “please take as many days as you like – this lehenga will take up significant area in the house just to keep it“… 😛 Even for me, the same thing was going on in my head…that outfit is easily going to take up one cabinet of space in my closet. Enjoy for a day, and stack it somewhere for the rest of your life. Its a little heartbreaking. May be I will simply wear the lehenga on some gloomy days when I am in Gurgaon to make myself feel better (Monica Geller style) 😀
I feel my guest list is a little too high for my venue
I don’t know why but it irritates me so much because all these vendors they simply do haan-haan to everything. My venue people have told me the lawn can accommodate easily 1000 guests. I am second guessing whether it can even accommodate 500 ! Can you see the difference.
Till now, I had thought I will only have round table-chair arrangements, no theatre style but both me and my fiance are doubtful. Since the venue is almost walking distance from my residence, I know at least my society guests will stay back for even the pheras which is late at night. And this essentially means, we need to atleast have chairs for the guests if not table.
So coming week, the fiance will be in town and I plan to once and for all sort this out. I had thought about so many things…that I would leave out little thank you notes for the guests in each of the round tables (basically borrow some ideas from this post), but if I have to opt for the theatre style arrangement, it all goes for a waste.
But I need to make up my mind soon rather than get disappointed later on.
Cutting down Guest List… why did I make so many (good) friends !!!
Cutting down the guest list is the worst thing to do. My final guest list count has to be no more than 500, and from this my quota is simply somewhere around 50 ! The rest of the crowd gets filled up by the other members of my family…I live with my grandparents as well, so their list counts too 😀
Touchwood, I have maintained awesome relations with all my ex office colleagues and bosses (shocking I know) and I wanted to invite them all. But now that I analyze the situation, its getting so so tough to include everybody even though they all are so close.
So, yesterday I sat reading articles online on how to bring down the guest list. One of the rules said – if you haven’t spoken to that good friend of yours in the past one year, they are ok to be left out.
I know this is a little rude, but if anyone has a better algorithm on who gets invited and who doesn’t, please I am all ears !
Number of Digital E-Cards vs. Paper Invitation Card Counts pending
You know what scares me the most. Missing out on someone important in the list. Its never done on purpose but these things do happen. And the worst is if someone was expecting you to invite them and you totally missed on that. It just ruins everything.
I have decided all my friends get e-cards, may be will send out one or two paper invitations, but no more than that. Even if paper invitations have all the more value and actually feel like authentic invitations…I am putting my foot down on this…its not as though I am some self professed environment friendly freak or something… but it just feels right this way.
I remember this time last year, one of my closest friends was getting married and she sent out her e-invites on whatsapp along with something very special. She actually audio recorded special messages for all her friends and sent it out along with the e-cards.
I found that super special. She actually recorded different messages for every invitee making everyone feel so welcome and included in her big day. I think her way felt more personal than just getting a paper invitation card. So I am going to borrow her idea, and probably do something similar. What do you think?
Can’t make head or tail of why MUA’s are charging what they charge
I understand if you wish to charge a high amount for dramatic looks…but I don’t understand how can you come up with standard rates…what if I want the natural look? On any other occasion, to give me that look, you would have charged less than half…but just because it is my wedding…you add extra zero to that amount !
It works both ways against our favor. We being hyper brides feel if we pay more, we might get more which is not usually the case. There is no measuring standards which tell you an MUA charging 15k is going to be better for you as compared to someone charging 12k.
It depends on how they make you look. From what I hear, everyone uses MAC….standard? And then there are those other options of Krylon and something else…but these are basically the same across. So the only thing differing is how good are you in your work, your experience and your popularity.
A makeup trial is like a must. I know you are very popular, you have done up 500+ brides over 8+ years of experience blah blah blah…but its my ONLY wedding…I can’t blindly trust you. Its not like you are a family doctor who does standard procedures and whom we can approach based on family recommendations.
One needs to experience it upfront to know how the look will turn out. And then when makeup trials itself cost like 2000+ and for good ones cost even upto 8k, its just mind boggling. That and then you do all sorts of naatak for not doing touchups and waiting till late night… we are paying for your service, not asking for free !
It almost feels like ransom, where all MUA’s know that the bride has no way out…so lets extort as much as possible. Its simply not acceptable !
I love silk more than bling 😕
I still have couple of outfits to buy to have in my trousseau and wherever I go, my eyes keep going towards silk, be it raw silk, art silk, pure silk whatever. Somehow bling has become excess cheapo bling in the market…I can’t see anything which is decent enough to wear unless it costs a bomb and is designer wear.
Satin and net are the absolute no-no’s for me and I hate that two design sarees (one design on the pleats, one on the pallu). I don’t know why, but I just can’t get my head around that fashion sense. May be I lack fashion sense, but what to doooo….
Have I gotten old for preferring silk over bling. I am going to be a north indian bahu post wedding, should I be scared for having sober elegant outfits in my trousseau? 🙄
So today, I am off to Bhuleshwar again to shop for my trousseau. Hopefully will pick up something suiting my tastes. I want to pick a couple of semi stitched suit sets, then a floral raw silk cloth material (I want to make myself a floral skirt) …and some other fun stuff if I find anything. Will keep you updated on what I find.